Red Thread

"An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle but will never break." ~ Ancient Chinese Beli

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day

Paying tribute to Mother's everywhere today.
Of course an extra special one to my beloved Mom who I owe everything to.

Thank you, dear Mom for giving me the gift of life.  
For loving me everyday of my life and for being the best role model I could ever ask for.
If it was not for your gentle love and guidance, I would not be half the mother I am today.
I love you.
Today I can not help but also think of Lexi's "tummy mummy", as we lovingly refer to her.
I sit and wonder how she feels - not only today but everyday - as she thinks of her beautiful daughter who she gave birth to 33 months ago.  I am certain that a day does not go by that she does not feel a tug at her heart.  I am sad for this woman who will never know this wonderful, beautiful and intelligent little girl.  At the same time, I am so thankful that she gave Lexi the gift of life - and that I have been given the opportunity to be Lexi's "forever mommy". 

I am so blessed - a Mom to two of the most amazing girls - I love you Ella and Lexi - thank you for making my Mother's Day so special!!


Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Singapore Slide

As I've said before, we have read lots of books and talked to many BTDT families but we did not expect this recent set back to be so severe. Many children like routine and thrive on structure. For Lexi - as well as many other recently adopted children -  this is very much the case. Routine is very very important in helping Lexi feel safe and secure. Mix it up a bit and she gets very anxious and nervous.  Throw in some suit cases, a plane ride and lots and lots of activity and she breaks down.

So you ask, why would you even consider such a trip knowing that is the potential outcome? Well if you have not heard, we are moving.  And we are not just moving down the street or around the corner we are moving country.  Come June we will be saying good bye to Hong Kong and moving to Singapore.

In a perfect world this would not be happening now as Lexi is still settling into her new normal.  But we have already pushed this move back for various reasons and now we need to move forward.  And with any move there comes a time to go and look at schools, houses etc.  Our time came last week (again we had put that off for as long as possible).

Without getting into all the detail of Lexi's upset it is suffice to say that it was an emotional week for her - for us. But we were there as a family reassuring her that it was all going to be okay, we are in her life forever and we are not going anywhere without her!

Having said all that, we do not regret going as it was really important for Ella to see her new school and get a feel for what life will be like living in Singapore.  Amongst all the running around, we also had the pleasure of seeing our dear friends we know from living in Switzerland - unfortunately they will be leaving Singapore and moving to Sweden in the coming days. But it was a nice reminder to us that good friends do stay in your life even when you move apart!

Good Friends!
After a few busy days in Singapore we took a ferry to the island of Bintan in Indonesia (a quick 45 minutes away!).  These few days of r&r helped as we didn't do much other then hang out as a family.  We also avoided the night time melt downs by taking Lexi for a walk along the beach after dinner - each night she fell asleep in her pram and we were able to transport her easily.

Despite Ella's concern over her Mei Mei, she still managed to have some fun!!
And we did manage to get a smile from Lexi a few times!!

As I have said in other posts, we take a few steps forward and then a few steps back.  We at least now know that we will make our way forward again in time. And yes, the summer months may be a bit topsy turvy with our move and travel but as a family we will get through it all...together.