Red Thread

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Thursday, December 8, 2011

"Why no Santa in China?"

Despite the heat and humidity of Singapore....it is beginning to feel a bit like Christmas.  We have our tree up - and yes we finally came around to getting an artificial tree this year for a variety of reasons and I am actually okay with it.  No watering, no messy needles to clean up daily, no guilt feeling associated with the fact that a real tree comes to us via ship etc etc.  All of my Santas are out and "QD" (our Elf on the Shelf) is entertaining us on a daily basis.  


The girls love all of QDs' stunts and viewing spots !
The children have holiday parties, concerts etc and I have done all my shopping, wrapping and mailing. The count down has started and only 4 more sleeps until we are off to Switzerland to spend Christmas with Opa and the rest of the Stilli family.  Ella is beyond excited and Lexi has no clue to what we are doing, where we are going and why we keep getting her to try on these heavy clothes that make her feel like a stuffed toy!


Ready for snow in the mountains - for the first time!
Ella has always loved Christmas and it is a joy to watch her eyes light up as she shares the delights with her "Mei Mei" Lexi.  Ella has been busy teaching Lexi carols, reading stories and helping her make holiday crafts.  I especially love hearing Lexi sing her favorite carol "Tinkle Bells!"  ;)


Ella, Lexi & Isabella (neighbor friend) getting into the holiday spirit!
As every week passes Lexi's speech advances in terms of vocabulary, fluency and at times even her articulation.  She is constantly in the ask mode of either "Why?" or something more specific.  Ella was telling Lexi all about Santa Claus - who he is, where he lives, how you need to sit on his lap and tell him what toys you want for Christmas etc.  


I noticed Lexi was not asking her typical questions and there weren't many "why?"s.  
She was taking it all in and then turned to me and asked something that really threw me. "MaMa.....why there no Santa in China?"  Dumbstruck I said, "What do you mean?"  And she said, "There no Santa in China MaMa.  There no toys."  


It took me all I had not to cry or react in an emotional way and to be honest I am not even sure what I said to her. Ella just gave her a squeeze and whisked her away to work on another activity - and surprisingly Ella did not come back to me to further expand on the question/comment - something she has asked before in relation to children in orphanages and I always struggle with an explanation that does not cause more questions and concern.

I do not know what Lexi meant by her statement/question.  Perhaps it was just an opportunity to use the word Santa in a sentence and to talk about him as she really does not know what it going on. Lexi was 27 months when she joined our family a year ago October so last Christmas may have been her first time celebrating but she was still in a heavy state of grief and turmoil at the time so did not take much in. I do not know what was done in her Foster family or orphanage but realistically she would not really remember it anyway because she was so young.  


No matter what was meant or not meant by her statement, Lexi sent a strong message with her comment because she caused me to stop and remember that there are over 700,000 orphans in China and millions more around the world that likely do not have a Santa in their life to bring them presents or a little bit of joy during the holiday season.  Sadly there are just too many children in general around the world who go with out - not only at Christmas but every other time of the year as well.

Lexi's statement reminded me that despite how busy and engaged we get during the holiday season, we should all stop for a moment and take time to help make a difference in the world by giving back.  Be it a donation of some sort - maybe a gift for 'toys for tots', canned food for a shelter, a monetary sponsorship for a child in need, the gift of giving ....what ever it may be...no matter how big or how small..... it is a giving well worth it.  We all find ways to give but there is always ways to give a little more and it is my hope that we can all do more this holiday season to help those around the world and in our own communities who are in need.

From our family to yours - we wish you a magical holiday season and a good slide into 2012!!


xo